So I was chatting to a lad I met on Tinder. He gave me his number and we were texting a lot, everyday but he didn’t ask me out. Which concerns because sometimes you talk so much before you meet you have nothing left to day in real life. Also it allows for you to built up this chap into some sort of magical Liam Hemsworth/Tom Hiddleston character, which puts a lot of pressure on that first date.
Anyway we met for a first date about 3 weeks after we started talking and non of the above happened. He wasn’t exactly who I was expecting to meet but he was lovely and cute. We had lunch for an hour or so and then he asked if I wanted to get a coffee. Cut to 4 hours later and it was time to finish the date. We had so much to talk, an important part of most relationships. However as we left said date he said “cool well I’ll probably see you around.” I have never gotten friend zoned so quickly! I mean poor guy probably thought 4 hours of talking with me will last a lifetime or perhaps it was the content of the discussion but I thought we both had a good time. I’m not sure what I did wrong but I know I shouldn’t take it personally…
I will miss texting him everyday but what can you do? I guess it’s back to the old drawing board.
I went on a date on Wednesday night. He was lovely and easy to talk to. We got a drink, then he suggested dinner and he drove me home. He added me on Facebook shortly after and asked me out last night. Except by out it ended up being in at his place. I said let’s go out and do something fun but in the end he just wanted to go to his place. The predictable thing happened.
I really thought this one has keeper qualities. I know I could’ve left and not slept with him but I kind of resigned myself to the fact that’s all he was interested in.
What a shame. My heart hurts a little from this one.
So the dude from the last post didn’t text me the following week as he said he would. I messaged him and eventually we got onto that he’d be going to a gig with some friends. To me it was a very “I’m just not that into you” response. My housemates said maybe that’s how he sees a 2nd date going and other excuses but I know in my gut, if he wanted to see me, he’d have made it happen.
Due to a terrible choice in showing the wrong person at work some attention my self confidence hit an all time low on the night of the gig.
After being pursuaded by my friend to go to see the band (she and her husband came with me). I awkwardly avoided eye contact and never spoke to the guy and went home feeling really embarrassed and ashamed.
I felt like this dude was too cool for me and if he wanted to see me, he’d have made it happen. I did not feel worthy of him.
So long story short I’ve acted like a bloody weirdo and am home before 11 on a Friday night feeling very unlovable and thinking I need a break from dating for a while. Dear god, I fucked it!
Okay, “dumping” is probably too strong a word, but this dude ended things with class when I stopped being very responsive. I wasn’t the best I could be but boy was I dreading a third date with him but didn’t have the guts to say so, that being said I was willing to give it one last chance.
I guess we’ll have to puzzle alone for now.