Hello friends, well-wishers and haters.
I am a 30 year old Australian girl who just got dumped in one of those crushing scenes and by “just” I mean like 2 months ago and by “dumped” I mean the guy I was sleeping with who I really, really liked, told me he didn’t want to be in a relationship with me. So currently I am pretty heartbroken, even though I probably shouldn’t be. This week I finally started to come to terms with the fact I need to start moving on because I’m sure this has barely affected my ex whilst I’m letting it consume my thoughts, so to that end I’m going to fuck my problems away… No, not really but I am going to get back on the dating horse. I know I’m not in the best head space to fine “the one” but I am definitely willing to give it a go and hope for happy or at least funny results.
Last night I went one date number one post break up. I recently got recommended to use the dating app Plenty of Fish (no I’m not getting paid to plug them, yes, I’ll take money from them) and I found myself a fish who I hope is not smelly, smiley or scaley. We’ll call him A. A’s profile informs me that he is 30, 6 foot (I like em tall, fish and men), is thin, is looking for a relationship and wants children, all good shit to know. On Tinder you don’t get this type of information and it’s difficult to ask for it, so a lot of the heavy lifting is out the way.
I initiate contact because I have no shame and I’m pretty confident, I’ve gone on lots of first dates. We chat only for about a week, he’s pretty slow to reply so I just go for the kill and ask him if he’d like to get a drink. He says two days he’s free and a suggested suburb which I immediate like, he’s taken some charge. He further suggests a pub I like so an added bonus point.
I get to the pub and he’s already there, I didn’t mean to be late but I also secretly think it’s good to be a tad late for a date, that’s probably some old wives tale bullshit but I think it works. We order drinks and he buys a Coopers Light mid way through the media shit storm. Shit is this guy religious or anti-gay marriage?! He doesn’t seem that way and I mock him for his choice but it does break some of the tension.
We talk for an hour and a half over one drink each, we’re both driving and such responsible citizens! He is cute, nerdy but is giving good eye contact which I really like. I feel a 7 out of 10 for chemistry which is pretty good in my book. All the 10 out of 10s have ended in tears, so 7 seems like a happy medium. By the end of the date I’m getting a bit bored and decide to end it. I don’t hold that against him, it’s fair enough to run out of great banter with someone I’ve just met.
My biggest criticism is he is wearing a crapload of aftershave, if we ever make it to a 27th date, I’ll tell him then to tone it down.
As we leave I give him a hug and he says he’ll leave it up to me if I want to contact him again. I didn’t like that, it was a bit of a pussy thing to say. Use your balls dude, you never know things might turn out alright and I might suck on said balls! I said okay. Went home and messaged him and said I had a good night and would like to see him again, he said he felt the same. Will a 2nd date actually take place? Only time will tell.